Do we both need to be in the session?
Yes. A couples session is for the two of you together, with one counsellor, so you both need to be there. If your partner isn't ready yet, you can start on your own. Working on your side of things individually still helps the relationship, and plenty of people begin that way.
Can we join from different locations?
Yes. When you book, you each get your own unique link to join the session, so you can be on the same couch or in different places altogether. It's the same 80 minute session with the same counsellor either way.
Do we have to be in crisis to come?
No, and the earlier you come the easier it tends to be. Most couples wait years longer than they should. If you're having the same argument on repeat, feeling more like flatmates than partners, or just want to get ahead of a big change like moving in or having a baby, that's reason enough.
Why are couples sessions 80 minutes?
Because there are two of you. A standard 50 minute session doesn't leave enough room for both people to be heard and still get somewhere. Eighty minutes gives your counsellor time to hear both sides, notice what's happening between you, and work on it with you in the same session.
Is couples counselling covered by Medicare?
No. Medicare rebates are for individual sessions with a psychologist, and they don't extend to couples sessions. If you have private health insurance with extras cover, many funds pay a rebate on counselling, and you can check yours online in under a minute. Current session fees are on our pricing page.
Can couples counselling be done by a psychologist?
Yes. Couples counselling is a general term, and on Talked it covers sessions with both psychologists and counsellors who work with couples. Whoever you choose, you'll see their qualifications and experience with couples on their profile.
Will the counsellor take sides?
No. Your counsellor works for the relationship, not for either of you. Their job is to make sure you both feel heard, help you understand the pattern you're stuck in, and give you practical ways to change it. If one of you feels ganged up on, that's something to raise, and a good counsellor will want to know.
Is couples counselling the same as relationship or marriage counselling?
Yes. Couples counselling, relationship counselling, marriage counselling and couples therapy all mean the same thing: the two of you working through your relationship with a qualified professional. You don't need to be married, and you don't need to be a particular kind of couple. Any two people in a relationship can book.
Is it confidential?
Yes. What you talk about stays between the two of you and your counsellor, who is bound by professional confidentiality rules. Talked is ISO 27001 certified for information security. The only exceptions are the standard ones, like if someone's safety is at risk, and your counsellor will explain those in your first session.